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|Tuesday, April 29th, 2008|
What strategies have you found to help your ADD partner help you with housework? I'm engaged to a guy with ADD, and after having spent the weekend helping him clean his apartment, I'd like to ask the community for some wisdom before we set up house together, to see if I can avoid chores turning into an overwhelming or resentment-laden situation.
Random example #1
People with ADD tend to struggle with tasks that involve several incremental steps. In de-trashing his living room and kitchen, I noticed that most of the stuff on the floor or piled up on tables was either laundry or recycling- stuff that required sorting before it went to its next destination. In the present situation, his laundry room is an unnavigable mess and he has to pre-sort and load the recycling into his car to take to the bins at either the leasing office or at work. Do you think it might help if I created sorting stations, or if I offered to do the sorting if he would bring the things that need to be sorted to an appropriate location? How else might you handle situations like this?
Random example #2
It is not so difficult for me to initiate habits such as sifting the cat litter boxes every time I walk by them (When you have three cats in less than 1,000 square feet, very regular maintenance is the only thing that will keep your house from smelling like a giant litter pan) but I know his brain doesn't work that way. What strategies would you suggest to help form habits concerning regular maintenance that don't involve anything like nagging?
|Saturday, January 12th, 2008|
Hey, I'm new here--not sure exactly how to do this but here I go! I'm married to a great guy who has ADD. Love him and he makes me nuts. Definitely would like to talk with others and get/give support!
|Wednesday, December 5th, 2007|
Hello! I just found this community after I considered creating one myself for people just like me. I am married to a man who has ADD. He was diagnosed at age 18. We have been through almost every ADD med you can imagine, and even some combinations. We think we found one that works, but I have to be the one to dose out his medications into a pill organizer and make sure they all make it in him every day. This is a minor inconvienence.
What I'm hoping to get out of this community is support, suggestions for what has worked for your partners in the past, and perhaps references to good books to read (for us, not for our partners) and references to good counselors. We are at the "need for life management" stage where the meds are working and we just have to teach him how to manage his life alone so I don't have to feel terrible when he misses a doc appointment for a med refill because I got pulled into a meeting at the last minute and couldn't call to wake him up. While I have a degree in education, I was not taught how to help students (or my DH) how to manage ADD other than medication. His mother has been a wealth of information and support, and while I love talking to her, we both think some other support for me would be helpful.
Thanks in advance!
|Friday, April 20th, 2007|
joining the ring
So, I'm in college and I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half (he's in my year). And he has ADD.
It gets really frustrating, because I don't know how to help him. And his medications aren't working, and his doctor is back home for him and so he's not able to visit very often. Summer is almost here, so maybe he'll be able to get back on track during that time. But he still has two short papers that were due back before Spring Break, with barely any progress on one, and nothing at all on the other. -_-
I try and suggest things for him to try but he doesn't like to listen to me because he doesn't think any of it will work. Any suggestions? Current Mood: quixotic
|Wednesday, January 25th, 2006|
first entry madness
well, here is the first post in this community. tada!
my name is heather, i'm 21, and a senior in college. i have been dating julie, who's 23, for over a year and a half. julie (obviously) has ADD--the inattentive kind. when i first found out about it, early in our relationship, i didn't think anything of it. i thought that ADD was just one of those things that everyone says they have if they're antsy or forget to do homework. i didn't realize how REAL it was and just how much it would affect our relationship. i have a lot of things i want to say and talk about and ask, but i don't want to do it all in one post, so i'll pace myself.
for now i want someone who knows how to make our background not suck so bad and could make a few snazzy default icons for us. thanks and WELCOME!